The moment you hear about ‘failed’ cycle of IVF is the moment you finally realise that you will not get your miracle this time. Various emotions such as devastation, suffering, suffocation, anger, unfairness, depression etc., come crashing down on you. Fortunately, Kanaa Fertility and Healthcare is working its best to make IVF treatments more affordable, to give more chances to its patients. Finding difficulty in conceiving naturally itself is a painful experience. But it is entirely different when you are failing after completing a cycle of IVF treatment.
Here are some tips on how to cope when the IVF procedure doesn’t work to help you.
Don’t blame yourself:
Before drowning yourself with “where did I go wrong” or “why me” know the answer: you can do nothing. Understand that this is simply biology and the course of nature. The clinic would have done everything from selecting the healthiest embryo to implant it into your womb. If it didn’t go well, there is nothing, really nothing you could do or have done to influence an embryo implanting successfully. If you are practical and sensible enough to understand this, everything will eventually fall back to place.
It is important to give yourself some time before expecting the same from others. Understand that you have gone through an emotional and physical ordeal. Have a break from everything that is draining your energy and peace of mind. It can be a few days or weeks or even months to get back to normal and follow your cycle or other medication back again. Whatever it is, give yourself enough time to cure yourself.
Make a plan :
It is normal if you end up spending hours on the Internet in search of ‘what to do next’. It is normal if you want to try your next IVF cycle at Best hospital in Chennai. It is also normal to let everything settle down, take time before jumping onto the next process. The effect of trauma depends and varies from person to person. If you feel confused, talk to your partner and express your feelings.
Talk to People
Talk to people who have had a similar experience. Though it might feel weird only people who have been through will know what it feels like. You might be feeling lonely. But know that you are not alone. 1 in every 6 couples in India has difficulty in conceiving. If you think talking to other people will help, feel free to do it. Vent out all the emotions you have- anger, resentment, jealousy, exhaustion, fear, etc. Also, the more you talk about IVF, the less of a taboo it will become.
Do whatever you couldn’t have done if IVF had worked
The truth is, you are not yet pregnant. So enjoy everything you do. Do whatever you feel like doing. Though you may be going through that rough side of infertility, relish these carefree days now itself as you will miss being all this once your bump starts growing. Spoil and enjoy yourself because you deserve it.